This is probably going to sound a bit stupid and high school, but I can't help it. Some things just get under my skin.
It bothers me when girls around 15-20 years old start dating someone and fall in love in about .232 seconds. It's like a week after they start "going out" they are head over heels and they know they're gonna get married and this is the one and on and on it goes. I'm sorry but I don't believe in "love at first sight." You can not truely say you love someone until you know them and trust them with a very deep part of yourself and I don't think you can really know someone after only a week of dating.
And you might think "well duh, everyone knows that." But I guess it just bothers me because it's people like that that make it impossible for adults to take "young love" seriously.
Here's an example. A girl I used to school with started dating some guy a little over a year ago. I don't know his name but we'll call him Joe. She absolutely loved Joe and put kissy pictures of the two of them everywhere and had his name in hearts all over her webpages and would make bulletins everyday saying how much she loved him and how they were going to be together forever. I think they were both 18 at the time. Did it get a little obnoxious all the cutesy pictures and messages? Yeah I guess. But I thought maybe she was truely in love with him and wanted to share that with people. I believe Joe bought her a "promise ring" to say that one day they would get married. All that was fine and everything..but recently I learned that they've broken up after dating for only a year and a couple months. Now Joe is nowhere to be seen but some other kid has taken his place. And they've only been going out for 7 days! One week people. And she got over Joe the love of her life in less than 4 days before moving on. Now this new kid is plastered all over the place and all up in hearts and kissy pictures are everywhere and UH it bothers me. I guess I just think love is just so perfect and so special that I hate when people throw the word around.
"Beloved, let us love one another; for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God, for God is love." 1 John 4:7-8
I know God loves me no matter how much I may disappoint Him. God's love is without measure and cannot be comprehended. Yet we get to share a little piece of love with one other special person and I want people to use that word wisely because it is a powerful word with a powerful meaning. Telling someone you love them one day and taking it back the next just isn't giving love the true justice it deserves.
But anyway, I guess I just don't like how young people make other young people who are serious about their relationships look bad. It sets the stage for everyone to think that you can't fall in love until you are a certain age and I don't agree with that. If you fall in love at fifteen and feel the same way after a couple years of dating then by all means, go for it. But don't tell me you want to get married after a couple months...then I'm going to laugh at you.
I feel like I haven't accomplished anything today - lots of homework to do. But it makes me feel better to get this off my chest.
1 comment:
So.. I totally get what your saying. I've been with my boyfriend for 20 months, and now everyones like "when are you getting married!" I'm like "uhh when schools over and I have money!" lol. but seriously, I have a friend who started dating a guy in MAY of THIS year, and now their engaged to be married this summer... its crazy what people will do for "love"
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